It’s not just guys. Women, also get into some sticky dating situations. You’ve probably been in these sticky situations as well. There are times when you’re just not interested. These are the times when you just have to say no. These are the times when a second date isn’t an option.
But how can you say no without offending your date? After all, you wouldn’t want to hurt his feelings. He did show up for the date. And yes, he showed up on time. To top it all, he was very nice. Unfortunately, there was nothing there. There was no spark. There was no magic. So why bother going on a second date?
The hardest part is saying no to a second date. How can you say no without looking like some callous b-tch?
Look Straight Into His Eyes
The moment has come. He wants to see you again. You know you don’t want to. You know you have to say no. So how do you say no?
I think this is the best way to say no. Start by looking straight into his eyes. Then tell him the truth. Never avoid his eyes. Look right into them. Your message will be loud and clear. Don’t get feel sorry for him. You wouldn’t want to date someone out of pity, would you?
So look straight into his eyes and say no. You really don’t have to give a lot of excuses. Just say no if asks you out again. He might even thank you for it. Sure, he might feel bad in the beginning. But he’ll eventually be grateful. After all, you spared him. He doesn’t have to go through all the trouble. So look straight into his eyes and be honest. You can both move on right away.
Sincerely Say Sorry
Say sorry and mean it. Okay. So it’s not your fault. After all, you can’t blame yourself for not liking him. That happens. You also can’t force yourself to like him, right? But it really wouldn’t hurt to say sorry and mean it.
There’s no guarantee if your date will feel better. Most probably, he won’t. But if he sees you’re sincerely sorry, he won’t push it. He might even appreciate it. You’ve to keep in mind that it’s just a date. The truth is, you won’t break his date’s heart. To start with, he hardly knows you. Sure him he’ll feel bad. But you definitely won’t break his heart. So just say sorry , mean it, and move on. It might not even be a big deal for him.
Once you say no, it’s a no. Don’t confuse him. Be consistent. This means you can’t call him anymore. That’s the reason why you need to be sure. Before you say no, make sure of your feelings. Because once you say no, it’s a no.
But it’s a different story if he still calls you. Given that scenario, you can change your mind. That is, if you want to. But the minute you say no, it’s definitely a no.
Everybody wants to get on a second date. That’s why the first date is crucial. After all, the first date is the entry point. And that’s why everybody works hard on it. But there will be times when you’re just not interested. You can’t like every guy you date. There’ll be one or two guys that won’t interest you. That’s all part of the dating game.
So you’ll definitely find yourself in such sticky situations. And if you do, it’s okay to say no. Don’t feel bad. You just need to be sure of your feelings. But most importantly, you need to say no nicely.